If you’re anything like me you have a few moms you follow on Instagram or Facebook that seem perfect and you wonder how. How is their hair always amazing, their makeup perfect, their kids dressed like they are going to walk down a runway at any moment and their home like something out of a magazine? If I could nail just one of these things I would be golden. As I look at my life even just 4 years ago and finger through old images, then look at myself today I can see growth. Then, I look at social media or compare my life to the lives of others and they tell me that I’m not doing so hot on the scale of “Perfect Mom”.
But yesterday, I had a small realization. I was browsing around and found one of my Instagram fantasy moms vlogs and she had posted one of many videos of their recent family vacation. Part way through the video you see a team of behind the scenes photographers shooting away. Now wait a minute, this whole time I thought that maybe she was a Instagram picture guru, that she styled herself and her family but, right in front of my eyes there was a whole team doing it all. What I realized in that moment was that many times we see the end result, not the behind the scenes. And what is put in front of us is a finished product that took a million selfies to get that one, a ton of hours to post that video, long days with no sleep to gain that following and it’s just not fair to put that same expectation on ourselves.
Don’t get me wrong I am all for growing, in fact that’s what I live to do- grow daily. To not stop and appreciate where you are and where you have come from should be a crime. I surely would not think I come close in the category of “Perfect Mom” if there was an award to be given and that’s okay as long as I am a Growing Mom. Our kids see us as the perfect mom each and every time we are there for them. There to kiss boo-boo’s and give them magic kisses. There to feed them and cheer them on. So rather than spend time worrying about how you can be more like your Instagram idols, or be perfect to our viewers let’s first worry about how we can be perfect to our number one followers- our kids. Let’s be more present for them and proud of where we all are today in this moment as moms. How they see you in their eyes and how you feel in your heart are what matters most.